I Lost My Virginity To An Escort (prostitute) At 19. I’m Now 26 And Have A Low Libido. Anything Wrong With Me?
Posted by adminSo when I was a sophomore in college back in 2003, I got desperate and paid an escort (a.k.a. hooker/prostitute, same darn thing) to have sex because I didn’t want to be a virgin after my teen years. I am now 26/male. I’ve had sex with about 40 women total, more than half were escorts and/or strippers. The remaining majority are girls I meet off the internet on sites like grisliest. I’ve also been addicted to strip clubs and spent thousands, in them over the past 8 years (yeah, I started getting hooked on them when I became legal). I feel like I can’t even pull a girl in public now. I don’t have any confidence, nor do I have any friends. In fact, I have a girlfriend now, and have had a couple others in recent years, but I don’t want to have sex with them. I don’t have the desire for sex with a girlfriend because I’m so use to one-night-stands and no emotion attached, that I am scared to have a girl actually like/love me. I’m not use to that and all I know is wham-bam-thank-you-mam. So girls that I date long term now leave me because I won’t have intercourse with them. But yet, I still find myself online hooking up with girls for wild freaky one-night-stand sex. That seems to be all I know now. Even then, its hard for me to become sexually aroused.
My question is, because of my horrible sexual experiences in my young adult years, have I been ruined? Is there some reason I can’t get sexually aroused any more? I can’t fall in love and have no desire for relationships. My girlfriend of 6 months is about to dump me because I don’t spend enough time with her and don’t have sex with her. Little does she know, I’ve cheated on her 3 times with less-than-attractive older women I met off the internet for one-night-stands. Do I need to see a psychiatrist or something? Somebody help me!!!
Oh yeah, I also take finasteride (the generic Propecia drug) in 1mg doses to prevent baldness. Not sure if that matters tho.
well first id have to say ( no offense at all) your a sex addict try going to a meeting and try talking to a counsler and make up some story to your current girlfriend on why you have been acting strange unless u feel comfortable telling her the truth and ur not ruined id say go to some kind of counsler or group meeting type thing and u will find somone special eventually
LOSER!!!!!
You just need to become celebate. you’ve obviouly had your fun and now you’re done. Sex isn’t everything.
thats really complex
Im 22 and a virgin. Im not desperate for sex. But a prostitute. yuk who knows where shes been.
abstain for awhile and don’t watch anything trashy or go to clubs…soon you will heal
maybe you are gay and haven’t realized it yet
you may want to find a rehab centre or a retreat
I wish I could **** 40 women in freaky one night stands
dude this is very sad, alot of us had lost our virginity with a prosti. but we moved on to regular boring sex. i dont blame you for what you have done but it is time for a change your starting to get that age when its time to start a family. i say try dating again and be sensitive. watch 10 chick flicks if you have to. meet a descent girl at a fancy place. not bars or clubs. psychiatrist will be my last and desperate move
you need a phyciatrist
your insensitive to sex because your so used to it.if you lay off the fudging sex for a LONG WHILE. maybe an year. you can be more sensitive to it.
basically its because youve done it so much with perople who you DONT care about.. well idunno its kindof messed up.
I agree that it’s highly possible that you”ve become desensitized to sex. You’ve explained how you obviously want a relationship, but when it comes to sex, however, you’re not excited to have sex within your relationships.
I also feel that you may have an addiction/fascination with spontaneous sex. However, I’m not a therapist of any kind.
I don’t think it would hurt to speak with a therapist/psychologist of some sort about your situation. It’s not going to make the situation any worse if you did. Plus, I’m sure it would give you some sort of insight as to what’s going on with you.
So yes, it’s best to go see a professional about your situation. I’m sure that they could assist you in finding an appropriate path for you to take.
Good luck with everything.
UMMM..YEA u ruined..i hate to say it but i’m the same way.. I’m a girl and have really awkward problems with sex myself. I don’t look at sex as an act of love but rather as 2 gorillas having nothing better to do. (THATS WHAT IT SEEMS LIKE). My boyfriend dumped me for the exact same reason. i think the only thing that can help you is to completely stop going 2 the strip clubs and all the other junk and wait for it to die down til youre horny beyond belief and you have nowhere else to go to BUT your girlfriend, it might not work but then again. like i said im suffering with the same issues :/..email if you want
It just simply means that you have become insensitive to sex, being that you’ve done it much before. If you feel that there’s a problem with your sex drive (and your question clearly demonstrates a call for help), then what do you have to lose into seeing a psychiatrist?
Wow, I really feel bad for you, but you did this to yourself. You need MAJOR help. YES, you do NEED to see a psychiatrist. Wow… thats all I can say.. =/
Also please get tested.
well buddy, you certainly made a mess of it, haven’t you.
yes, you need to speak to someone professional no one on this site can give you the help you require.
to be quite frank, it’s like you are masturbating with a little help.
no strings attached. you want to live like that the rest of your life?
how you have not come down with an std is beyond me.
you can’t believe something to prevent baldness is doing this…now i’m starting to think you are ignorant besides promiscuous
physically you can get an erection for a woman, as long as it’s not
someone you see more than once, so there is nothing wrong with the machinery just the manufacturer
seek out a physiologist that deals with sexual disorders make an appointment and start your life. up until now, well i’m not quite sure what you have been doing.
You’ve managed to make sex about absolutely nothing but the action. You have to be able to love yourself in order to love others. In order to find love and connect with a partner you need to get into counseling. Since your problem sounds like it may be a sex addiction issue: there are special counselors out there for that.
& Bald is Beautiful!!! Stop taking drugs you don’t really need for true medical/psychological purposes.
you may be right about the drug your taking to pervent baldness but it sounds like there may be an underlying problem.you should see a doctor unless you want to live alone forever unless thats ok with you.there isnt anything wrong with being a virgin but maybe having a fantacy and following threw with it caused you to lose the excietment of being with someone you care for. maybe something happen as a child or maybe you are an addict to porn and sex. maybe you should take some time off from sex and just try to go without and discover what you really want in a person or what or who you desire. like someone else said,you might be gay or bi. sounds like you have to have veriaty to get arroused and thats not normal. you should talk to a doctor
its horses for courses, everyone has their own opinions and preferences, there is no difference here
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